(#68) 5 Signs you’ve outgrown something + what to do about it
“The Real Reason It’s Time To Let Go”
Feeling stuck, unmotivated, or disconnected? You’re not lazy or flaky. You’ve just outgrown what used to serve you.
Boldness isn’t just about starting something new—it’s also about knowing when to let go. Growth will always make you feel like a stranger in places you’ve already mastered.
In this latest episode of the Confident and Killing It Podcast, we’re diving into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a chapter is closing and giving you the practical steps to move forward with clarity and courage. If you've been playing small to keep the peace, feeling drained by work that used to excite you, or ignoring your intuition, consider this your loving wake-up call.
Here are 5 signs you’ve outgrown something—and how to navigate it like the empowered woman you are.
1. You Feel Consistently Drained or Unmotivated
What used to light you up now feels heavy. You’re dragging yourself through the motions, procrastinating, and feeling restless instead of excited. It’s not laziness—it’s resistance.
The Turnaround: Your energy is your greatest asset. If something consistently drains you, it’s no longer in alignment. You’re not failing; it’s just expired.
2. You’ve Stopped Learning and Growing
You’ve hit a ceiling. Everything feels routine, and there’s no spark or challenge left. You look around and think, “Is this it?” You’re craving more depth, but nothing around you is rising to meet that.
The Turnaround: Comfort becomes a trap when it stops being a place to rest and starts being a place to hide. Your desire for growth is a sign of evolution, not ingratitude.
3. Your Values Have Evolved—But Your Situation Hasn’t
Your priorities have shifted. You’ve grown emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, but the role, relationship, or routine hasn’t kept up. The vision simply doesn’t excite you anymore.
The Turnaround: Honour who you are becoming. You don’t have to cling to an old version of yourself to make others comfortable.
4. You’re Shrinking to Fit
You’re editing yourself, watering down your truth, or performing a palatable version of yourself just to “keep the peace.” You feel small in environments that used to feel safe.
The Turnaround: When you have to shrink to stay, you’ve already left yourself behind. Your power lies in taking up space, not giving it away.
5. Your Intuition Is Whispering (Or Yelling)
You keep getting signs—a gut feeling, a quiet “this isn’t it” voice—and you’re rationalizing them away. The thought of staying feels heavier than the fear of leaving.
The Turnaround: Your body always knows when it’s time to move on. Stop silencing the wisdom you prayed for.
What to Do When You’ve Outgrown Something
Knowing the signs is one thing—taking action is another. Here’s how to move forward boldly:
Stop Gaslighting Yourself:
Catch the self-blame loop. You are not the problem. Outgrowing something is proof of your growth, not failure. Name what’s true out loud: “I’ve outgrown this.”
Get Radically Honest. Ask the hard questions:
“What part of this still serves me?” “Who am I shrinking for?” Break the loyalty trap. You owe yourself your truth, not your silence.
Redefine Bold:
Boldness isn’t always about doing more. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is let go. Own your evolution: “That version of me served her purpose. I’m allowed to grow.”
Take Aligned Action:
Clarity comes from movement, not overthinking. Have the necessary conversation, send the email, update your CV. Not everything needs to be a dramatic leap—micro moves count.
‘‘Final Thoughts’’
“Outgrowing something isn't a failure—it's a testament to your growth. It’s about learning to honour the woman you are becoming, even when it means releasing the familiar. The discomfort of the in-between is where your next level is built. Give yourself permission to release what feels heavy to make space for what feels aligned”.
Your Challenge
Identify one area in your life—career, relationship, routine—where you’re holding on past the expiry date. Journal it. Name it. Then, take one single step away from it.
Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need the courage to listen to yourself and take the next right step.
P.S. If this resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to stop playing small, my inbox is always open.