To my insecurities by Temi
I guess this could be a letter to my younger self. For us, by us 🦋🦋🦋
Hey younger self!
I was hesitant to write this as I fear I take myself too seriously sometimes and recently, it’s also felt as though I’ve been in a long process of trying to overcome quite a few insecurities of mine. But, here are my thoughts on overcoming insecurities and an attempt to take myself just seriously enough ! -
There’s no magic fix, it’s an every day effort. As long as you can try and look at yourself everyday and say this is what I’m going through, this is hard but let’s try again today - it will be okay. As long as you make sure you get help if you need it. As long as you can try to be secure enough to look at those around you and say this is what I am going through and this possibly affects how I’m responding to this or that, you’ll be okay. You will constantly be overcoming insecurities in your life and so I’ve decided to ditch this idea that I will ever get all the way “there”. Life is hard, we spend our lives unlearning past difficult experiences. You’re never going to get “there”. The idea of “getting there” is a false one and so much pressure because we are always becoming. The idea that there’s a deadline to completely overcoming an insecurity is hopeful, but in my experience a lot of pressure; because life is a process of overcoming insecurities and that is okay.
I used to think for a while that I had completely overcome my insecurity surrounding my body and its impact on my relationship with food was a thing of the past. But, I have not. I don’t know if I will ever completely be over that, but I do know that everyday, I try and I get much better than the last time. Sometimes I go backwards but on the whole I am growing. I am learning what to do and what not do and that’s okay because it is hard and you have to make an every day effort. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have overcome an insecurity if it’s huge. Try to find ways to become comfortable in yourself. Try to be secure. Surround yourself with the right energy. Try. Acknowledge your issues and try. Be easy on yourself and you will be okay. Just start with trying. So, I guess I haven’t completely overcome any of my insecurities but I am slowly becoming secure in the fact that this is okay.
You will be okay but you also will have times when you are not and you have to try extra hard and that’s okay. One major insecurity I am making a lot of progress on though, is being myself. Letting myself be and focusing on discovering who I am as opposed to who I think I’m supposed to be and that starts with doing what makes me feel good, first :)